The Breadwinner

[Z]

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n. One whose earnings are the primary source of support for one's dependents.


Some guys feel a little weird if they aren't the money-makers in a relationship. I am currently in a situation where I make more money than my significant other but I have less. Much less. However, I have felt no insecurities or backlash from this, however, and in fact I am enjoying it immensly. I told lisa today that I felt like getting drunk tonight and then she admitted that she, too, wanted to get shizfaced so she suggested we get a bigass thing of Crown Royal and Pepsi. I, of course, think she means one of those jugs that are just a wee bit bigger than my hand but, no, she meant this gallon jug thing, lmao. I offered to pay but then she insisted that I let her so I did because presently she is far more independently wealthy than I am.

My question is, are there some of you out there that feel awkward with the idea of being the breadwinner? Should the guy be the breadwinner by default or does it even matter?

I gotta admit, I could definitely get used to being taken care of by my woman rather than her relying on my paycheck to take care of her which was how it originally began.

[Seegtease]

Wife doesn't have time nor energy to be out there working, especially not right now. She might be able to work part time at some point, but there's no way I could be home and take care of kid(s) while she worked. She knows what she's doing more, plus she can nurse, and I cannot.

So I have to be breadwinner weather I want to or not. I also think it's Biblical for me to do so, anyway.

[Bloodcinder]

I would feel extremely awkward if I was in a relationship where the breadwinner was not a man.

I FUCKING WIN

[deathofcheese]

With my family's current financial situation, just about all of dad's money goes to pay bills (electric, water, taxes, cable, satellite, loan/equity payments, etc.) and emergency needs and my mom's money goes towards paying for groceries and entertainment. Whatever of dad's money isn't spent on bills also goes into the entertainment pot.

I don't think it would bother me as long as I was able to do something constructive with my money.

[Seegtease]

Sweet, you family uses entertainment pot? Must be a craaaazy house!

[Charlie]

It doesn't matter to me, either way. If it's indeed biblical for the guy to be doing it, and nobody else, then there's my answer. But until I get confirmation on this, it doesn't matter either way to me.

[Z]

For men: 1 Timothy 5:8 "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."

For women: Titus 2:3-5 "... the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things - that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."
The way I read it is that guys just can't be deadbeats but I haven't found anything that says they must be the only one to earn money (it says For his own, not On his own). And as for the women, I haven't found anything that says they can't earn money, just that they should also be nurturing to their children, loyal to their husband, and responsible for the housekeeping.


That's not to say there isn't a biblical reference to support the claim that Men should be the only earners, I simply just haven't found it yet.

[SpaceProg]

It doesn't matter to me. Ideally both could be making good money and living high on the hog, but if only one makes money and it's the woman, and the man stays home and takes care of the children, that's fine. Vice versa is fine too. How people want to delegate 'roles' and such to their home life is their own business, short of forced slavery, abuse and all that.

[reginacroft]

I don't care much, but I am kindof old fashioned so if he does I may feel a bit more...ok? Dunno though if I did we would STILL have money lol.

[Seegtease]

The way I read it is that guys just can't be deadbeats but I haven't found anything that says they must be the only one to earn money (it says For his own, not On his own). And as for the women, I haven't found anything that says they can't earn money, just that they should also be nurturing to their children, loyal to their husband, and responsible for the housekeeping.


That's not to say there isn't a biblical reference to support the claim that Men should be the only earners, I simply just haven't found it yet.

Pretty sure there isn't, but the womanly duties listed tend to take up so much time it doesn't leave much time for them to work, so it's kind of implied, but I guess a real workaholic could pull it off, but they might neglect the home, which I think would be disobeying the Word. It's definitely not a sin to have 2 workers, and the man should definitely be working. Women just kind of have their duties and if they do all that and want to, they can work.

[chefTENGU]

It doesn't matter much to me. Actually, I'd be quite fine with the idea of being a stay-at-home dad.

However, that will never happen for me. My wife would like the same thing (we're both pretty lazy like that), but as far as a career goes, she's going to be a teacher, so yeah. Good luck with supporting a household on one teacher's salary.

So, I'm gonna be working no matter what, and I'm fine with that. I'd like to be earning more than I am, and know exactly WHAT THE HELL I SHOULD DO WITH MY LIFE as far as careers go. I'm already married, which is a good portion of my life goals.

[Arainach]

I'm rather indifferent. Because of my choice of careers, it's unlikely I'll find myself in a relationship with a woman who earns more than me, but I wouldn't be opposed to the concept if that's what it became.